Dating spouse after separation
Your church leaders tried, but had no success in righting the wrong behavior of your spouse.
They found themselves listening to how terrible it is to be married to you, or how hypocritical they were to tell someone else to do right.
Finally, you made the discovery that your spouse did have someone else. Maybe you checked the cell phone bill, read emails, found a note or letter in a pocket or purse, or, even worse, someone saw them and told you about it. Secrecy helped them, not you, but because you thought there might be a chance to keep him or her calm and possibly stop this nightmare, you allowed yourself to be manipulated.
Maybe your abandoning spouse had a period of hesitation.
He or she tried to end the affair, and told you that they were willing to work on the marriage.
Or, they might have heard that your spouse no longer believes what they once believed, so the church folks may as well go bother someone who buys into their malarkey. That may sound Pollyannaish, but I’ve personally witnessed it repeatedly over the last sixteen years.My faith in God tells me through His power anything can be done.